(Runners-up for post title include “Spitzer Becomes the Spitzed” and “Spitzer: Up Against the Wall.”)
Yeah, I’m probably required to comment on this by some sacrosanct law of blogging. Anyway, I think it’s a little bit sad. Maybe I’m projecting, but I’d guess Spitzer just didn’t have the courage to ask his wife for sex, and just went to a prostitute instead. I guess it’s a family problem, then. (Let me note, though, that what I mean is that it’s sad if the whole problem is that he would rather see a prostitute than communicate openly with his wife. But, I don’t know what’s happening. It’s idle speculation.)
Obviously, the biggest problem with this is that Spitzer is something of a crusader, a holier-than-thou fellow who once led a high-profile crackdown on a prostitution ring as attorney general, and even railed against sex in Grand Theft Auto (the key quote being “Children can even simulate having sex with a prostitute,” as though “children” are obviously the target audience for a game that says “Mature 17+” on the box). Clearly, for someone who solicits prostitution, he is someone who doesn’t have the decency to preach as he practices, or talk about it openly with his wife.
Remember that Jesus tells us that “he who is free of sin shall cast the first stone.” I’m not saying he shouldn’t resign… he probably should, as this undermines all of his credibility and standing as New York’s governor, which was shaky already. But instead of excoriating him morally (though it does all make me a little sad… where are we when a married man is afraid to talk about sex with his wife?), maybe we should take the time to reflect on our own failings. I’m not trying to let him off the hook… I just hope this becomes an introspective opportunity rather than self-righteous dancing on somebody’s political grave.
…And by not talking about it with his wife I mean it sounds like this story breaking was the first his wife heard of it. That’s what makes me sad. I mean, for all I know, privately they’re a free-love couple and they worked out this arrangement beforehand because she needed a break from sex. (I find that possibility depressingly unlikely.) But, I heard from my brother that Tucker Carlson (in a rare defense of an embattled Democrat) opined that a married man visited a prostitute… what’s the big deal? I find that sad… in our culture, whether it’s appropriate or not, adultery is a sin of the highest order. If we excoriate it publicly but privately have a nudge-nudge-wink-wink agreement to overlook it, that’s hypocrisy… and as a woman, it especially bugs me that leaving one’s wife out of the loop is part of the typical game plan.
Say, why didn’t Spitzer just plan a hot threesome? That would relieve some of that gubernatorial pressure. Ahhh…
(Savor my opportunity to write about sex and politics. I won’t get it again for a while.)